A couple of weeks ago, I gave up...and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done. Now, if you know me personally, you know that I’m not a quitter. I hate partials. I don’t like half doing anything. I’m a planner, & I like to weigh as many options as I can. However, I’ve recently learned that this doesn’t always make me the best candidate for faith, and that in certain moments, it’s best to just...quit.
I got very tired of trying to figure God out. I knew that the Bible says that “all things work together for the good of them that love Him” (good ol Rom. 8:28), but I was really trying to figure out exactly how the mess my life had become would be worked out for my good. There were so many things happening at once. So much had piled up. I had plenty to stress about (I could’ve given it away like Oprah & had sooo much to spare)! I wanted to see my way out, so in true Valencia fashion, I tried to create a “vision” to have faith in. Maybe if I could somehow dictate or imagine how it would all work out, it would help me through it. If you happen to be in the same space, or you just have a lot going on and you don’t know how it’s going to work out, allow me to tell you what has helped me every time I’ve tried it: quit….now. What does it mean to quit? Let’s chat about it!!
Yall, a couple of days later, I got a phone call saying that a shop back home would fix my car for a reasonable price! My car wasn’t beyond repair (it was just beyond the previous shop’s labor costs hahaha). I was amazed at all of this, because it felt like God was just waiting on me to get out of His way & let Him work. He’s watching me literally think myself into a frenzy, while He already had a plan. Some people may ask “what kind of God would let you do that to yourself if He had a plan?”. I’d say the kind of God that wanted me to see the value in quitting (or surrendering).
The beauty in surrendering to God’s will is that your problem is no longer your problem. When you give it to God, you’ve officially given your problem to theeeee best problem solver. He’s got ways that you don’t even see. He knows people that you don’t know. He can get to places you may never get to reach. You are His child! If you had a child, would you not want to do all that you could to make sure that they were taken care of? If you saw them crying, would you not want to instantly know who did it & how? You don’t think that God cares about you that much (at least)? Let me help you out, He does! Trying to figure God out puts Him in the very box we spoke about last week (see previous post if you’re confused lol). Surrendering to Him takes the stress off of you, & puts the burden on Him to perform. It frees you, but it’s definitely not easy. How can somebody truly surrender, though? It’s one thing to say “God, you’ve got it”, & it’s another thing to actually let Him have it. Here’s what I learned about quitting and what to do after you give it up to God:
This week’s background music: Watching (The Moment) by Vashawn Mitchell & Jonathan McReynolds. A little reminder that even in the rough times, He’s watching you...and He’s got you. Hold on to Him!
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